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Dianne’s Missives October 10

Thought to Consider…

It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes and to make amends for them.
When we are honest with another person, it confirms that we have been honest with ourselves and with God.
A.A. Is like an adjustable wrench, it fits almost any nut.
I have learned what the Grace of God feels like.
. we know that the pains of drinking had to come before sobriety, and emotional turmoil before serenity.
Life didn’t end when I got sober – it started.

AACRONYMS

H O W = Honest, Open-minded and Willing
Part of the effectiveness of any A.A. group is the development of new members to carry on, to take over, from the older members

“THE ACID TEST”

As we work the first nine Steps, we prepare ourselves for the adventure of a new life. But when we approach Step Ten we commence to put our A.A. way of living to practical use, day by day, in fair weather or foul. Then comes the acid test: can we stay sober, keep in emotional balance, and live to good purpose under all conditions?
What makes an effective talk at an A.A. meeting? It is not a fine speech with fine choices of words and an impressive delivery. Often a few simple words direct from the heart are more effective than the most polished speech. There is always a temptation to speak beyond your experience, in order to make a good impression. This is never effective. What does not come from the heart does not reach the heart? What comes from personal experience and a sincere desire to help the other person, reaches the heart.

Demonstration

“Men and women who use alcohol as an escape are not the only ones who are afraid of life, hostile to the world, fleeing from it into loneliness. Millions who are not alcoholics are living today in illusory worlds, nurturing the basic anxieties and insecurities of human existence rather than face themselves with courage and humility. To these people, A.A. can offer as a cure no magic potion, no chemical formula, no powerful drug. But it can demonstrate to them how to use the tools of humility, honesty, devotion, and love, which indeed are the heart of the Twelve Steps of our recovery.”
“We know that while the alcoholic keeps away from drink, as he may do for months or years, he reacts much like other men. We are equally positive that once he takes any alcohol whatever into his system, something happens, both in the bodily and mental sense, which makes it virtually impossible for him to stop. The experience of any alcoholic will abundantly confirm this.”
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Episode 0036 Ted SLIP Sobriety Lost It’s Priority

This episode of Shout Out From the Pit spotlights Ted—a veteran, businessman, and long-time member of the recovery community—whose journey from functional alcoholism to lasting sobriety is as candid as it is inspiring. With humor, humility, and raw honesty, Ted shares stories of his upbringing, struggles with alcohol and drugs, brushes with failure, and the moment of clarity that led him to embrace recovery. Along the way, he opens up about faith, family, loss, and the practical tools that keep him grounded today, offering listeners both encouragement and hard-earned wisdom on building a life of purpose and resilience.

SLIP: Sobriety Lost It’s Priority

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Episode 0035 Mark Transverse Myelitis

Mark shares a decades-long arc from early drinking through retail career moves, relapse after ~14 years dry, and eventual recovery that finally stuck once he embraced sponsorship, fellowship, and daily phone accountability. A big middle chapter covers his rare neurological condition, transverse myelitis—rapid onset paralysis, long rehab, and an eventual partial recovery—used to illustrate grit, perspective, and living life in the middle, not on emotional cliffs. The round table (Sloan, Ralph, Dwight) backs him up with specific ways community, service, routine, and a personal concept of a higher power turned “no hope” into workable tools.

* updated to address audio issues

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Dianne’s Missives August 29

Thought to Consider…

Newcomers are the lifeblood of the program. But our oldtimers are the arteries.
It’s not making a mistake that will kill me. It’s defending it that does the damage.

There is no progress without change.

The road to recovery is always under construction.

AACRONYMS

O D A A T = One Day At A Time

P A C E = Positive Attitudes Change Everything

F E A R = Fools Every Alcoholic Repeatedly
“When many thousands of people are able to say that the consciousness of the presence of God is today the most important fact of their lives, they present a powerful reason why one should have faith. When we see others solve their problems by simple reliance upon some Spirit of the universe, we have to stop doubting the power of God. Our ideas did not work, but the God-idea does. Deep down in every man, woman, and child is the fundamental idea of God. Faith in a Power greater than ourselves and miraculous demonstrations of that power in our lives are facts as old as the human race.”
A sponsor is simply a sober alcoholic who can help solve only one problem: how to stay sober. And the sponsor has only one tool to use – personal experience, not scientific wisdom.
Sponsors have been there, and often have more concern, hope, compassion, and confidence for us than we have for ourselves. They certainly have had more experience. Remembering their own condition, they reach out to help, not down.
“Those who do not recover are people who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault. They seem to be born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living that demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover, if they have the capacity to be honest.”

Solution

“There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the confessions of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we had been living it. When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet. We have found much of heaven and we have been rocketed into a fourth dimension of existence of which we had not even dreamed.”

Step 5

“Unless we discuss our defects with another person, we do not acquire enough humility, fearlessness, and honesty to really get the program. We must be entirely honest with somebody, if we expect to live happily in this world. We must be hard on ourselves, but always considerate of others. We pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of character and every dark cranny of the past. Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we can look the world in the eyes.”

Steps 6 & 7

“If we are still clinging to something that we will not let go, we must sincerely ask God to help us to be willing to let even that go, too. We cannot divide our lives into compartments and keep some for ourselves. We must give all the compartments to God. We must say: ‘My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows.”
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Episode 0026 Lisa

In this episode The Old Rucker interviews Lisa, who courageously shares her harrowing journey living with and eventually losing her husband Joe to pornography addiction and COVID-19 complications. Lisa recounts her early life, past marriages, and how her second marriage—while initially full of hope—slowly eroded due to Joe’s secret compulsive behaviors rooted in childhood trauma. Despite their involvement in church, marriage counseling, and recovery leadership, Joe’s addiction persisted for over 15 years, manipulating Lisa’s trust and consuming their emotional and financial lives. Lisa opens up about the psychological and spiritual toll, including feelings of worthlessness, secrecy, and self-loss. After Joe’s death and a series of miraculous experiences, Lisa rebuilt her life through faith, support, and business networking. She became a certified health coach and now empowers others—especially widows and women affected by addiction. Her story offers a raw, honest portrayal of resilience, self-worth, and reclaiming joy after emotional devastation.

https://www.facebook.com/thenontoxbox/

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Episode 0020 I’m not disabled. I’m differently abled!

In this episode we get to hear Melissa’s story.  Melissa shares how she overcame alcohol, food addictions, awkwardness, and injuries as a differently abled person dealing with cerebral palsy. She shares how a famous iconic figure changed her life.

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Episode 0019 Immersion Table Jam – Immerse yourself into recovery

Immersion Table Jam – Immerse yourself into recovery

The Immersion Table Jam – Immerse Yourself Into Recovery discussion centers on the concept of fully committing to a recovery program and the role of spirituality in that journey. Members of the tribe share personal experiences, emphasizing that recovery isn’t just about abstaining from alcohol or drugs but rather a complete transformation of mindset and lifestyle. Brett introduces the idea of immersion by analyzing key phrases from recovery literature that reinforce the necessity of being “all in” to achieve lasting change. The discussion expands to personal revelations about the struggles and breakthroughs experienced in recovery, including spiritual awakenings and the importance of surrendering old behaviors and beliefs to fully embrace a new way of living.

As the conversation progresses, the group delves into the role of a higher power in recovery, recognizing that spirituality can be a deeply personal yet essential component of healing. Various perspectives emerge, from traditional religious beliefs to broader spiritual concepts, highlighting that recovery programs offer flexibility in defining one’s own higher power. Members discuss the significance of faith, self-reflection, and the support of others in sustaining sobriety. The discussion also touches on the importance of engaging in life beyond recovery meetings, maintaining a balance between personal growth and enjoying life’s experiences. The episode closes with reflections on camaraderie, the value of shared experiences, and a commitment to continued support within the recovery community.

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Episode 0016 Kristis Story – Screw Shame

Screw Shame!
Kristi, a youth pastor and former pornography addict, schools the Old Rucker  to the harms of pornography and how she overcame the addiction and helps others to get out of the addiction.

Kristi’s Battle Plan for Recovery

Resources:
XXXChurch.com
https://youtube.com/shorts/YOoRgdrwztk?si=USZWDT2UJ7Vd15OQ

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