Happy New Year Friends! RedBeard here, we wrapped up a holiday season and we are starting a new year. Here’s the challenge between now and the end of January, write in and tell us one honest thing about your recovery that you normally keep quiet. Not too much detail, not your highlight reel, not the line you give, the real thing. This is an accountability based reflection practice, if you don’t want to share publicly perform this challenge privately by writing it down and then destroying it.
- The resentment you’re still nursing.
- The fear you haven’t named.
- The boundary you won’t enforce.
- The person/place/time/thing you won’t face.
- The relapse thought that shows up uninvited like it owns the place.
No fixing it, no inspirational bow, no lessons learned; just the truth as it is, where it is. Keep it simple, vague and one sentence.
Why? Because what you refuse to face controls you; what you name and place in front of you, you can meet.
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” – Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
I’ll start by oversharing a few:
- I tend to shut myself off emotionally, except at times outbursts of verbal anger, to avoid being hurt, hurting others.
- I pause and struggle to say “I love you” back to my closest friends.
- I put stress on myself because the people who should have been role models were terrible so at times I discount myself because I feel like I am a 40 something year old child who still hasn’t figured shit out yet.
Submissions will be anonymous. They do not need to be polished, messy is expected.
Once gathered, we’ll compile the submissions and evaluate the content for a show discussion(s) and/or post.
New Year, One Honest Thing