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Dianne’s Missives August 29

Thought to Consider…

Newcomers are the lifeblood of the program. But our oldtimers are the arteries.
It’s not making a mistake that will kill me. It’s defending it that does the damage.

There is no progress without change.

The road to recovery is always under construction.

AACRONYMS

O D A A T = One Day At A Time

P A C E = Positive Attitudes Change Everything

F E A R = Fools Every Alcoholic Repeatedly
“When many thousands of people are able to say that the consciousness of the presence of God is today the most important fact of their lives, they present a powerful reason why one should have faith. When we see others solve their problems by simple reliance upon some Spirit of the universe, we have to stop doubting the power of God. Our ideas did not work, but the God-idea does. Deep down in every man, woman, and child is the fundamental idea of God. Faith in a Power greater than ourselves and miraculous demonstrations of that power in our lives are facts as old as the human race.”
A sponsor is simply a sober alcoholic who can help solve only one problem: how to stay sober. And the sponsor has only one tool to use – personal experience, not scientific wisdom.
Sponsors have been there, and often have more concern, hope, compassion, and confidence for us than we have for ourselves. They certainly have had more experience. Remembering their own condition, they reach out to help, not down.
“Those who do not recover are people who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault. They seem to be born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living that demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover, if they have the capacity to be honest.”

Solution

“There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the confessions of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we had been living it. When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet. We have found much of heaven and we have been rocketed into a fourth dimension of existence of which we had not even dreamed.”

Step 5

“Unless we discuss our defects with another person, we do not acquire enough humility, fearlessness, and honesty to really get the program. We must be entirely honest with somebody, if we expect to live happily in this world. We must be hard on ourselves, but always considerate of others. We pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of character and every dark cranny of the past. Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we can look the world in the eyes.”

Steps 6 & 7

“If we are still clinging to something that we will not let go, we must sincerely ask God to help us to be willing to let even that go, too. We cannot divide our lives into compartments and keep some for ourselves. We must give all the compartments to God. We must say: ‘My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows.”
Dianne
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Episode 0032 Open Mic Trivia

The Tribe meets up for an open mic trivia session. Bob (“the old rucker”) is joined by Sloan, Josh, Pat, and Dwight. After opening thanks, reminders, and shoutouts, the hosts and guests dive into trivia about the history of Alcoholics Anonymous, testing each other on facts about the Big Book, its founders, and traditions, while joking about “man cards.” The conversation shifts into open-mic reflections on unspoken “rules” and suggestions of recovery, including not drinking, going to meetings, getting a sponsor, embracing service work, finding a higher power, and working the steps. Participants share personal insights on why sponsorship, fellowship, and service are essential, and how slogans like “one day at a time,” “progress not perfection,” “think, think, think,” and “let go and let God” guide their daily sobriety. The episode closes with heartfelt personal messages stressing that recovery is possible, no one is alone, and sobriety offers a better life with genuine connection, community, and hope.

This style of show was originally refereed to as a Man Jam, a hated title among some, so enjoy some AI created art.

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Episode 0031 David AA History in Arkansas

Bob and Jeremy sit down with David, a living archive of AA history in Arkansas. From his own recovery journey to the overlooked weight of steps 6 and 7, David unpacks the origins of AA, the Oxford Group roots, and how Sterling, Harlan, and Bud kicked things off in Little Rock with the “Approach Program.” We hit the weird rules (no women, Joe McQ outside on the steps), Bill W.’s 1944 visit, and why archives matter for keeping the story straight. A mix of recovery grit, AA nerd history, and plenty of laughs about ego, humility, and the “AA police.”

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Episode 0030 Jeremy S

Listen in as Bob the Old Rucker, Brett, and Pat grow a closer bond with Jeremy. Jeremy is husband, father, grandfather, former marine, and a very active member in recovery. He’s respected in many circles for his recovery insight and dedication to service. 

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Episode 0025 Not a Glum Lot

Members of the tribe chat about having a good life in recovery:

In this roundtable episode titled “We Are Not a Glum Lot,” Bob “the Old Rucker” gathers with fellow recovery brothers Sloan, Tony, and Pat for a candid, unscripted conversation about the joy, connection, and growth found in sobriety. They reflect on the struggles of early recovery, the transformative power of showing up and embracing the program, and the deep bonds they’ve built through shared service, road trips, laughter, and vulnerability. From moving into new homes and picking up sponsees, to hilarious misadventures at Broadway plays and weed shops in NYC, the guys illustrate how sobriety isn’t just about abstaining from alcohol—it’s about reclaiming life with gratitude, humor, and purpose. The group emphasizes the importance of fellowship, leaning into discomfort, and keeping service at the core. The episode ends with each member sharing tools for staying sober and joyful, especially while on the road, and a reminder that no one walks this path alone.

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Episode 0024 Couples in Recovery

Couples in Recovery: Stephanie and Preston—Team G—sit down with Mandy and the Old Rucker to talk about the real, messy journey of getting sober and staying that way as a couple. Bob “the Old Rucker” and Mandy crack open an old recording and reintroduce Stephanie, who’s now eight years sober after losing custody of her son and bottoming out, and Preston, who spiraled hard into drinking during his military years and barely made it through withdrawal.

They each had their own wake-up call—Stephanie realizing her drinking was behind every problem in her life, Preston learning the hard truth about post-acute withdrawal. They share how they each found their footing with AA and intensive outpatient programs. It’s raw and honest—from the complications of dating in recovery to the baggage of childhood trauma and family friction. But what stands out is how they both did the hard work first—on themselves—before figuring out how to show up for each other. It’s a reminder that recovery isn’t just about quitting alcohol. It’s about rebuilding your life—and doing it with honesty, grit, and a little help from your people.

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Episode 0023 Sponsorship Relations

Republishing to correct the feed, the wrong episode got attached to the original

Charlie and Nathan sit down to share what it’s really like between a sponsor and a sponsee—pulling from their raw, personal journeys through addiction and recovery. Charlie, who’s been in this game a long time and is as real as they come, lays out why walking someone through the 12 steps matters: it’s about building a relationship with your higher power through honesty, surrender, and actually living the work. Nathan, still early in the process, opens up about the hard hits—alcohol, denial, loss—and how connecting with someone like Charlie, who’s walked the walk, gave him real hope. Their bond is rooted in mutual respect, shared purpose, and spiritual growth. This conversation isn’t polished or sugarcoated—it’s honest, human, and filled with the kind of hope that only comes from people helping each other find their footing in recovery.

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